My spouse and I are best friends first and I think that's what really makes it work. BUT it could easily have gone the other way. I love him dearly with all of my heart. Also don't ask questions that are too intrusive, or those that you would not like to answer yourself. I married outside the church and have no regrets. It is an act of faith. Don't approach him with a demandsuch as "I need you to put more time into our relationship". Not being an RM, they weren't really interested in me. Ask her out on dates. I feel pretty awful about that whole thing.
Luckily, this seems to work out. My experience with non members has been so much more meaningful and caring. Because Mormons retain old-fashioned values, Mormon girls are raised in a traditional environment by good fathers. This was hugely disappointing for him and created some very tense times. Seems some lonely trolls out there too based on above commentor. I would show her this recent post for example: Her family will also be thinking about this and will talk to you about it when you spend time with them. Marry a person based on his character, not his religion. But daytime game is the key. Now learn about how all of your doubts can be resolved through apologetics. As Joanna said, marriage takes some work no matter what, but being married to your best friend, and listening to the spirit brings great blessings.
The important thing is doing it together. But his absence in the spiritual side of my life, and that of my mother, was very hard. You insult my husband who is as faithful as they come and does everything he can to spend time with us and to help out. No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature. We are at odds about this constantly. I do not have the answer в but I keep trying to figure it out. Every new set will see your man with fresh and hungry eyes as a potential golden contact. She views patriarchy as a quality of God. I have many friends and members of my family who married within the church and later divorced. I'm pretty disturbed by the level of dismissiveness seen in many of the comments here.
As your future self, I say this with the utmost respect and admiration: Two peas in a pod. It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna break her heart, but much less so than waiting until you've both committed to each other and start discussing your future together. I don't know how to manage the resentment. He might be a doc by day but when he's not at the hospital he's a regular guy just like anyone else.
I have no control over my schedule I'm sure you all remember those daysand it kills me to know that he has moved thousands of kilometers away from our home town with me so that I can do this residency.