Masturbation should not be a taboo topic for women: Not only does it feel amazing, but it can also improve your health , sleep, and sex life.
Whether you struggle to reach orgasm , are a busy mom who needs to do the deed faster, or are simply looking for a different masturbation technique to spice things up, these tips will sharpen your solo sex skills. Assuming you're familiar with the clitoris , it's time you get to know the more elusive G-spot. Located on the upper wall of the vagina, about two to three inches inside the vaginal opening, it swells up when you are already aroused, says Courtney Cleman, founder of the V.
Stimulating it can boost the sensations that can help you orgasm that much faster, she adds. While there are G-spot vibrators that help get the job done, to find it manually, insert one or two fingers into your vagina, palm facing down, and curl your fingers back. When you start to feel stimulated , you've hit the jackpot. Your clitoris and G-spot may be the main events during masturbation , but paying attention to the rest of your body can enhance your experience, Cleman says. Cleman says doing so increases stimulation to the clitoral organ, which is actually six to eight inches long, on average.
When you want to masturbate but don't have much time, Cleman says it's best to hone in on a single sexual fantasy and stick to it. Even the smallest distraction can keep you from reaching orgasm, which is why setting the mood can be one of the most important steps you take. Goddess Cecilia, a sexuality and pleasure educator at O. School Pleasure Professional , suggests having a couple of stimuli always at the ready.
Even if you don't have a ton of time to spare, making these stimuli a part of your masturbation can help put your brain in a state that's primed for pleasure, making it all the more likely to have an orgasm. Lubricant is not meant to be reserved for penetrative sex; using it is an easy way to get you to orgasm faster, Cecilia says.
Just make sure you purchase one that works best for your body — if you have a history of frequent UTIs , yeast infections , bacterial vaginosis, or you just feel more sensitive down there, Cecilia says a more natural, water-based lubricant is likely to work well as it has fewer ingredients that could potentially be irritating.
Sex toys are as diverse as women's desires, so it's important that you try out a variety of them to discover which toy textures and sensations you enjoy most. One kind that Cecilia is a big fan of? Toys that rumble. But every woman is different, and there's such a wide variety of products out there that provide different types of stimulation — oscillation, rotation, and pulsations of air, for example.
Jess podcast. O'Reilly's top pick: the We-Vibe Wish. When you masturbate in the shower , changing the temperature by a few degrees can make a world of difference. Focus on how your clitoris responds to the sensations of the cool wall and the hot water in succession, as the contrast may bring you to the brink faster.
Many women are verbal, so it's more likely they'll be turned on by steamy passages in books than by visuals or their own sexual fantasies, O'Reilly says. That's why she suggests stashing a few sexy books by your bed, and reading a chapter or two before you masturbate.
Then, "if the mood strikes you, you can drop the book and get yourself off using your fingers and fantasy alone," she adds. Always having sex i n the same position can get boring, and the same goes for masturbation. And while there's nothing wrong with doing it the same way for years, mixing it up can bring you to new levels of pleasure.
Need some inspiration? If there's no time to get off before you get on with your day, don't wait until you're back in the bedroom to get in the mood.
You can actually wear a discreet vibrator beneath your clothes. The We-Vibe Jive , for example, is designed to deliver rumbly vibrations to your G-spot, and the thin outer arm fits discreetly in your underwear so no one will be the wiser, O'Reilly says.
It's not super well-known, but some medications can really mess with your arousal and libido. Antidepressants like Prozac, hormones, and pills that treat hypertension are common culprits, O'Reilly says, so if you've been experiencing a delay in orgasm since starting a new prescription, talk to your doctor about alternatives with fewer sexual side effects.
If sex toys aren't really your style, there's good news: There are plenty of props around your house that can do the job just as well. A few masturbation tips are really helpful, but at the end of the day, what feels good is unique to you.
So try not to get too caught up in what you see in porn or hear from friends. Some desire intense vibrations; others respond to the gentle flow of warm water. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to masturbation. Type keyword s to search. Getty Images. Figure out where your G-spot is. Make masturbation a full-body experience. Keep your legs together during orgasm. Focus on a fantasy. Set the mood. Use lube. JackF Getty Images. Find a sex toy you love.
Try using toys in water. Vincent Hazat Getty Images. Experiment with temperature. Daniel Grill Getty Images. Read a steamy book. Change positions. Wear a vibrator during the day. Double-check your meds.
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