I suggest to run as it will not get better. I'm not trying to be mean, just very clear. Maybe about a year ago. I expect to give up my career once he finishes his training and we start a family. It was a huge shock to me and caused a lot of worry on my part. We have almost daily prayers, scripture reading, and lengthy discussions about our beliefs. This was hard for me because my faith is deeply rooted within me. To the two wondering sistersвYou both appear to be with loving, incredibly supportive men. And you seem like a good person. We like each other, but I feel like giving up also at times.
You will be able to best gauge where her beliefs stand in regards to the church if you listen to how she describes her mission. You should not be trying to be exclusive with one person, so go on dates with as many people as you can.
Might be worth working through the missionary lessons and CES letter to see if they can agree at least to disagree. As someone starting residency next year and whose father and brother went through it, and whose girlfriend is about to start it I have to say that you can't be mad at him for not sacrificing something to spend time with you - there is literally nothing else to sacrifice; residency is called residency because the doctors used to live in the hospitals, and it was akin to monks in monastery. I don't know any other doctor's wives. My next serious boyfriend was raised Methodist but considered himself non-denominational Christian and people would comment on that instead of his character. By that I mean that we ought to consider simply marrying within the faith and in the temple for all the reasons that people have given. Being independent is sexy to these men who endure grueling hours, tons of paperwork and politics AND operate. She is going on a mission which means she is heavily invested in performing according to the cultural expectations. She was so sad over what she sacrificed it just haunted everyone on Reddit. Drives me a bit crazy. As a parent, we hope our children will make life choices that will give them the greatest chance of happiness.
I know a Doctor who drug his wife and 2 children across the US to begin his residency. Religious affiliation is not the only criteria when selecting a spouse. I don't mind long hour days but not having a companion during weekends. Some of the most wonderful lesbian sex I've ever had was with a TBM girl. It sounds like you have found a good one. Now just ask yourself what are the odds of her thinking her way out that crazy nonsense. If you marry her, you're marrying into a cult, a mild cult as far as cults go, but a cult nonetheless. Because I have a husband that is not a member I have a quasi like status in the ward. The odds are definitely not in OPs favor for something like this working for him. That's a really sad story.
This is by design. Some say, they love wearing it, it gives them "protection from evil". I figured he may still be finding his feet in his residency and as we grow closer, he might start putting in more effort. This was hard for me because my faith is deeply rooted within me.