While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. What you are potentially choosing is certainly not the easiest path. He is truly my soulmate and I shudder to think that if I had not chosen to marry outside of the church, I would not have had this life with him. But you are setting yourself up to leave the Church more easily, and even if you agree the children will be raised Mormon, your kids will likely not continue to participate in the Church as adults. Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. And there are questions and lessons that dual-faith couples face that zero-faith or single-faith households do not. I married a non-member over 20 years ago. BYU was once the perfect place to find a great young woman and get married. There have been times in my marriage where I have been frustrated and angry by his lack of change. The first year is mostly research with regular hours followed by those daunting 3 years.
I remember attending numerous priesthood meetings by myself and wishing dad were next to me. Personally I have a rule that I will not enter a relationship with a believing Mormon. And I resent being viewed as just the wife of a doctor rather than my own person with her own accomplishments and aspirations.
I also found this interesting and how I found it was just on the web while typing doctors and wive's roles. Yes, we had been in a rough patch for sometime with all of the changing happening around us, moving, starting residency, etc. She is going to dump you. Maybe it was because I was so young when I made the choice, maybe it was because I was the oldest child in an extremely active family with parents that just expected me to be a shining example to the younger kids. That's what good wives do, right. When DH comes in he is still gone more than half the time. Stages of a Healthy Relationship. See to it that she is aware of your plan, so you both can properly dress. I am an MD studying for my usmle step2. I have a better and fuller relationship with God because my own practice has been supplemented by additional observance.
Have you seen southpark episode on Mormons. It is coming close to the time where I will be preparing for the MCAT and it is going to get a lot more hectic than it has been. If he is luck to be off call during the weekend, I would sleep most of the weekends away to make up the sleep deprivation. For me, one of those bouncers is my marriage to the most wonderful woman alive. I grew up in Utah, attended BYU, and served a mission. Mormonism is not meant to be a casual part of a Mormon's life but it is meant to be the center. This can make it harder for you two to do things together. I've already approached him like a million times to ask why he has been distant with me but now I'm realising it's his work load but he doesn't want to admit it's a lot for him. They value femininity, motherhood, and masculinity in men. I understand that, and accept that.
This was hard for me because my faith is deeply rooted within me. You are a good person and she can see that. No beliefs are protected from challenge, the rules of evidence, or derision.