I know you love her but is it worth it. This was hard for me because my faith is deeply rooted within me. You might need more than he can give. There are other rewards, like him being available during the week or on odd days when other dads aren't, and knowing that we don't have to struggle financially as many of our friends do in this tough economy. Keep in touch, keep it light and understand he is under a lot of pressure right now. That being sais, just be honest. I believe rules are to be obeyed. She might not realize how important it is to compromise. Thanks - I searched but couldn't find it. And you seem like a good person.
Like you, I didn't want to stress him out by giving him some sort of ultimatum or demands. He is extremely compassionate. Although there are no strict rules as to who should do the asking, the Mormons are very conservative and in general, they expect guys to do the asking. You would be able to force her to confront the facts without feeling threatened. Additionally, you need to take stock of your beliefs and acknowledge they may change overtime. True Believer Mos base their actions on a set of priorities that make no sense to Nomos. I've told people money doesn't buy love. Sometimes not even a quick text most of the time. So it will just be for this life that it may be hard to have a non-believing spouse. You would think surrounded by kids and being off every day would not be lonely but never having anyone to share your kids achievements with in person is hard.
Sign Up It's Free. She went to BYU and did a 2 year mission, but since she was a girl she got to have a car instead of a bicycle. Why Mormons don't drink wine or coffee. Other guys I've dated in a similar situation have just asked me to put the keys in the mailbox when I leave though. A few years, maybe. I got married to for love and companionship, not to essentially be lonely with a lot of nice things and raise my children "as if" I were a single parent. To them, everyone is either TBM, hasn't learned the truth yet, or has some kind of personal failing laziness, desire to sin, allowed themself to be deceived by satan, etc. We can talk about everything, but I don't want him to feel as if he is under the microscope. The most important thing is an open dialogue, as you say, and utmost respect for the other person. She encourages me to develop my skills and talents, and provides an example in several of those areas.
Mormons love to have fun, but they prefer keeping it clean, respectful, and something that everyone can enjoy. I'd try to see if she will leave the religion, and if not, you should break it off. Two deployments, two years away and I've reached the point where it is honestly easier when he is away. Then she took a vacation to Utah and in her letter to me she stated that she had seen the Temple, and I never heard from her again.